Give Effective Feedback by Focusing on the Positive

Constructive criticism can be the bane of the workplace environment. It’s hard to give without putting the receiver on the defensive. (It’s also hard to accept.) That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t ever talk about each other’s performance; to not discuss how we’re doing would make for a stagnant environment in which…

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Give Effective Feedback by Focusing on the Positive

Constructive criticism can be the bane of the workplace environment. It’s hard to give without putting the receiver on the defensive. (It’s also hard to accept.) That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t ever talk about each other’s performance; to not discuss how we’re doing would make for a stagnant environment in which…

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How to Get Better at Understanding Accents

A native speaker and a non-native speaker walk into a bar.

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How to Be Better at Small Talk

I’m trying to stop saying “I know.” I say it too much to my friends or my wife when they’re just trying to be helpful. But unless someone’s actually being a dick or assuming I’m an idiot, I don’t need to protect my ego that hard. I win more points if I say “Thanks!” or “That’s true!” and keep the conversation going.…

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Replace These Words in Your Writing

Writing is hard, and weird, and in the scheme of human existence pretty new. We’ve been talking for maybe half a million years, writing for just about 5,000. So sometimes we write stuff that we’d never say aloud. We use a complicated or “smart-sounding” word when a simpler word would work better. New York Times editor…

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You Should Write a Year-End Family Newsletter Even if You Don’t Have a Family

When I hear “holiday newsletter,” I think, “Here are the life milestones that each of my seven children reached this year!” That’s what the Times uses as their example of a good year-end newsletter. But end-of-year newsletters are for everyone. Especially if you don’t have children.

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How to Argue Better With Your Partner

It’s too much to expect that you never argue with your lover, spouse, or partner in romantic crime. Here’s how you can make that argument more of a productive discussion than a constant stream of bickering.

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How to Argue Better With Your Partner

It’s too much to expect that you never argue with your lover, spouse, or partner in romantic crime. Here’s how you can make that argument more of a productive discussion than a constant stream of bickering.

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Avoid These Types of Behavior in Any Group Setting

Most communities, online or offline, come with some hard boundaries: no hate speech, no threats, no harassment. But a good community recognizes some more borderline behavior—stuff that isn’t as obviously terrible but can still slowly eat away at discussion, scaring away (or annoying away) good members until only jerks…

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How to Shut Down Bad-Faith ‘Debates’ on Social Media

They don’t really want to debate you, those randos who crawl into the comments of your Facebook posts and your tweets and your blog posts (hi!) asking to “debate” you over shit we should all agree on by now. You can’t debate them in any meaningful way, because they are mouths without ears. You can block them or take…

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